Letting go...

This is often hard for me especially if I am in a relationship and feel it is worth a confrontation and working it out. I am not against confrontation at all. I find it necessary. I strive for deep relationships with people and none of the pittly little how are yous? and fines. ugh. So superficial. If I am going to work with someone for long or have them in my life for any reason, I want a healthy relationship with them and to connect with them on some level. I search for it and I go from there.
I recently have confronted a former friend of mine about an issue involving my daughter and her little sister that are the same age. I heard she was saying things about me keeping the books for my daughters vball team and it was being repeated to my daughter from her little sister and friends. I didn't believe it. So I immediately emailed her and asked her. I was not in a postition to call her. She didn't deny it. I was shocked because I befriended this girl and defended her when several people had warned me. The only reason I was keeping the books for my daughter's is to help out the coach. I am not the coach at all. I make no decisions. This is J's first year at volleyball. She decided to try it. I casually say why not. She makes A team. I was surprised. She started the first game. I was surprised. She is not the end all-be all volleyball player but as her coach says she is motivated and working hard. Long story short, the former friend of mine basically accuses me of keeping the books so my daughter can have more playing time-her little sister didn't start. I didn't think anything of who started and who didn't. This is Middle School volleyball and they play TEN games. That is all.
Usually when I have a desire to work things out with a friend that I have had a falling out with-it usually happens. I was honest with her. She was honest with me. It bothered me she felt that way. I thought she knew me better.
I can take the heat, but when it trickles down to my daughter-that becomes a problem with me. She is undeserving of some treatment she has had during this drama. She doesn't even want to start now. This is where my BUCK UP speech comes in. ;) The drama has died down. I am fine. I have forgiven this girl without her knowing it. I can't just tell her I forgive her. That would fuel the fire. She doesn't see where she has done anything wrong. This is a small town, I was raised here, teach here, live here, and just wish everyone could get along. ;) This isn't the first time I have had to "let go" of a relationship, nor will it be the last. I just never like it.