Aaaahhhhh...the story of my life. Jean2 here. Is independence healthy? For the most part, I think so. I admire independent women. Not that I admire dependent women any less. I have been in both places and prefer a little of each in all honesty. I like a man to do the *man* things for me.
Things I won't do nor feel I should have to....
1. Pump gas
2. Take out trash
3. Mow the lawn-anything that involves working outside.
4. Kill the bugs (and no we don't have bugs-but every once in a while-ALONG COMES A SPIDER)
5. Paint
6. Lift
7. Wash and clean out truck
8. Feed all our outdoor animals
9. Help build things
10. Plant things
Do I consider myself a princess? No way. I do my part. And I do plenty as most women do. But I do have the desire to be ADORED.
My DH is most wonderful about taking care of the above things and the reason we do get along is because he ENJOYS most of these things. However, my independent nature often collides with marriage. Now, we are getting ready to celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary which is big time for me. And the last thing I want to do is jeopardize that. :)
He is not happy with me right now but he is not mad either. I am going out tonight with some fellow teachers to a downtown Mexican place and then to a piano bar. Purely innocent. I have been wanting to try this place for a long time. Does he trust me? Sure he does. But I do think he doesn't HAVE to like it-but that doesn't mean I should HAVE to stay home. The children are not being neglected-they are not here anyway. He works late. Why not go out with some friends for some innocent fun? Of course-this is how I see things. I have always had it in me to do my OWN thing. And everything I do on my own-I have never regretted. Now, I do believe in the Bible and wives honoring their husbands. But -I don't consider this dishonorable. I do not plan on drinking-not that I don't once in a while. I plan on having a new experience and enjoying time with my friends. Here is what bothers me....my husband respects and loves me and would never do anything that I REALLY didn't want him to do. I know this. So-why do I wrestle with this in my mind? I do not feel guilty. I just feel sick of justifying everything I do. That is what I am-the habitual justifier for my CLEAN FUN! Any thoughts or perceptions on this matter?
Thursday, April 5
Exhausting INDEPENDENCE
composed Donna B. at 4:41 PM
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I know you had fun, a lot of fun. That's always the rub, he wants to be there for you having fun. It's not that he doesn't want you to go, he's just a bit jealous of the others with whom you go to have fun and the a feels a bit sad at missing it. It's a good thing, if still a bit difficult to deal with. It's called "love". :)
DJR-you are so very honest and I LOVE it! J wasn't to impressed with your list of things you won't do BUT it made my list look a lot better. I will not take out trash and I have to be on the verge of walking before I pump gas. AND by the way, What fellow teachers and why wasn't I invited? :0) Is there a club for the 3 of you staying?
Shawna, it was actually just me, Julie and her husband and Jodi. I told Jodi to get the word out. She said most people couldn't go on that night. Last minute thing and a bad night for most people. I would have loved for you to have been there!
I am glad J got a kick out of my list. hee hee-Doug is husband of the year for sure!
We will have to do something FUN before you leave us!! :((
Donna
Lighten UP, husband!!!!!I love you because you are honest and funloving, and I adore your list of 'things you won't do'.
Love the list, very similar to mine. Except for the planting. I like to plant, just not pull weeds, etc. I agree w/ jean1, jean2 he loves you. Aaron is kind of the same way, and it pisses me off every single time. But then I have to think why is he doing that? Stacey wouldn't agree w/ me, but I think it is a jealous, kind of I want to have fun w/ you type thing. Anyway...
You are spoiled!HA! I do everything on that list, but clean out the car. That is just one thing that I avoid at all costs! I know all about the jealousy factor. Its already started for this weekend and I am just going to a volleyball tournament with my daughter. Its not like I am going to be visiting the bars with Emilie tagging along!
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