Jean 2 here discussing one of the most important issues in our lives as moms....BAD MOM MOMENTS! I am constantly telling my friends to tell me a "bad mom story." Simply because I like to feel better about my own parenting. I also like to hear "bad wife moments" but that is another blog. I like to hear the open and honest truth about the REAL life things that go on in mothering. Life just gets so frustrating and hectic that we sometimes take our frustrations out on those we love the most-as least I am notorious for this. And yes I am ashamed of it. And yes it is usually my children whom I love very much and they also know this and accept this about me SOMETIMES. Here is an example of a "bad mom moment" that I have done lately...leaving my daughter at a ballgame because I forgot she rode with me. OOPS! Excuse-It was her dad's weekend and I wasn't used to having her with me. She had to call me on my cell and tell me to come back and get her. This wasn't done out of frustration but still done in shame. We can laugh about it now. Those are the best "bad mom moments." Then there is one like I managed to do today...and am still ate up with guilt-the wasted emotion. My darling daughter J went with me to work in my classroom today. I am feeling the pressure of my move to 5th grade and trying to learn the new curriculum and get my room in order. J actually was a big help today. However, while I was working on things no one can do but me because it is MY job and I want it done MY way...J decided to play with my new razr phone that I still don't know everything about and she does. Later when I go to make a phone call, I can't get to my near 50 numbers I have stored-it just kept telling me to "enter new number." I FREAKED! I immediatley assumed J had FOREVER messed up my phone by playing around with it. I not so nicely (with a BAD BAD BAD word) told her NEVER to touch my phone again and threw it down and told her to fix it. She tried with trembling hands-UGH-and then I took it from her. So I go out into the hallway to calm down because I am freaking all my numbers are gone and it would not let me dial a number. I started pushing buttons thinking I could not screw it up more than it already was and guess what? I found my numbers (that angry adrenaline) and all was well. Not quite....I had hurt my daughter by lashing out. Not good. I cooled down and went in and apologized to her-the only thing to do. I don't know why it happened like it did. But I have a theory or rather EXCUSE....I called Jean1 (which is who I was trying to call in the first place-again why this is HER fault-hehe) and told her of my "bad mom moment" and that is when I came to the conclusion it was HER fault. YES! Actually, we came to it together...she was not there to help me today therefore I was overwhelmed with anxiety and NEEDED HER HELP! She patronized me and took the blame...sarcasm? Perhaps. I remember a college professor talking about the "breaking of the spirit in children" and Dr. Phil forever lectures on that. I know better. And I believe I am forgiven by my precious J. But I am haunted by guilt and I promised her a shopping trip tomorrow after my first day back to work. Hey-she does need a new backpack and some extra love. Right??
Wednesday, August 9
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<:( > Guess I had better do a better job of doing your job for you. <;)>
Actually, sometimes our kids need us to screw up so they can learn how to make things right again.
Oh, Jean 2, you KNOW I feel your pain on this one. I am forever lashing out and then feeling just sick about it. But I think you made it right by apologizing...totally the right thing to do. Good mom moment! Sometimes you need the bad mom moments to get to the good ones? Maybe I need to listen to my own advice?
Thank you for that! I just don't remember my parents ever talking to me like that. I thank God they didn't because I would have held a GRUDGE! I know that surprises everyone!
Oh, and the fact that J was trembling...can you teach me how to do that? Please?
haha, i can laugh at this because my 'bad mom moments' aren't as far and few between as they should be. It seems like when I get Paige and Lewis back from ex-hubby I have to go through alot of bad mom moments to get to a 'good mom moment' because I am trying to get all the 'really bad dad moments' out of their habit. I feel for you, and they do learn that stress causes and that you don't mean it, and it takes them less time to forgive than it does us MOMS, thank God right, otherwise they would forever be mad at us!
Don't worry, I left Skylar at a volleyball game. In fact I had EMilie and another girl with me and we all forgot. I came home and my sister was waiting with my younger child and she said "Where is Skylar?" Don't you know I started to panic and then my cell phone started ringing from the Parks and Rec. Luckily I can laugh about it now, but I felt so bad!
Thanks Connie! Those are the "bad mom stories" that unite us and make us appreciate each other rather than turn on each other!
Jean 2 you know most all my bad mom moments, it happens. Think of all the GREAT mom moments that go overlooked and without a thank you, but you know what I say about that. It is a thankless job!=) But, I have to repeat myself and say that your precious J has NEVER been in "need" of a shopping trip!lol Luv and miss ya!
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